Groucho Marks is reported to have said, “The most important thing is honesty. Once you can fake that, you’ve got it made.”
In line with these words of wisdom, “To be a great speaker, once you can mimic authenticity, you’ve got it made!”
I have had a busy spring and summer reviewing scores of speeches and speakers. One issue I consistently see with most inexperienced speakers is that they tend to mimic their stories, styles and performance from the speakers they would like to be.
My assessment of the problem is that most of us want to be something more than we are. In the process of trying to be more than we are, we fail to realize that our conundrum is actually resolved by being what we are – more!
With few exceptions, successful speakers, and successful people in general, have connected with own authenticity in their subject, in their career or in their life.
Authenticity comes from the word Author. Author is defined as – the maker of anything; creator; originator:
You cannot mimic someone else’s creation and in the same breath be your own author or creator.
This is not to say that you don’t watch, listen and learn from others. It is to say that you while you watch listen and learn from others, you take what you learned and fully own it. Make it yours, play with it, use it, see that it works for you. You don’t copy someone and do what they did only because you saw it work for them.
Your story is always best, because it is your authentic story.
Your lesson is always best, because it is your authentic lesson.
Your heart touching moment is always best because it is your authentic heart touching moment.
If you want to touch the heart of the audience, you have to speak from your heart.
So how does one do that? How does one find their authenticity???
Well…I had to dig…into the essence of my soul and discover who I really was. It was not a 2 hour drive – It was a bit of a journey!
In my DVD, Mastering Your Speech, I spend an entire hour on this subject. Where I looked for my messages. What questions I asked of myself to find the answers to who I was. How I discovered my authentic stories.
Speaking is not a matter of giving a message. It is a matter of giving your message!
There are great stories, great lessons and great wisdom that resides in each of us.
If we can find them and communicate them, we improve our lives and lives others!